Selected Message from Visitors
Below are selected excerpts from your messages. Thank you to all of you who have written
us. We read every message and letter but usually aren't able to respond to them. We
have not updated this page for a long time--but on 9/29/01 we added some touching messages from the past year--they're
all in blue.
Holly of Alabama wrote an especially thoughtful entry, one that really touched
"In honor of Daniel, I have begun trying hard to deal with some of my own weaknesses,
just as he did. In honor of him, I got help for an anger problem...This tragedy, and your openness in expressing
your sorrow, have showed me the consequences of poorly managed anger. And, in honor of Daniel, I have applied to
mentor a child in the Big Sisters program. Daniel's kindness lives on through all of us."
She later wrote again: "On June 25, which would have been Daniel's 18th birthday, I called Big Brothers/Big
Sisters and started in earnest the application process. Next week, I will be matched with a disadvantaged child
from a single parent family to mentor, befriend, and help guide.
"I do this in Daniel's name. Your web site has touched my life.I decided to tell you about this today, because
today is my 23rd birthday. I'm slowly but surely becoming an adult, and I know that I am a better adult because
of the way you have shared Daniel's life with the world. I thank you for that, and wish you the very best."
Linda of Kirkwood, PA says,
"Clearly Daniel was a wonderful person ... a ray of sunshine in the lives of
many people. Your tremendous love for him is obvious in your positive works and heartfelt words on his behalf."
My 6-year old daughter was killed two and a half years ago and my husband died a year later. Thank you for publicly
sharing your feelings; as a grieving parent it helps to hear how others find the strength to accept.
Sheri of Donalsonville writes, "You
will never even know how much Daniel's life has touched kids like me all over the world."
Cindy of North Carolina offers some wonderful thoughts:
"Our life is given to us as a gift.from our first breath to our last.God doesn't
take His eyes off us for one second during all that time. He was with Daniel in his last moments, as He was with
him in his first.You will be with him again. In the meantime, you are doing the best thing: remembering him, honoring
his name and memory, and using his last gift to you-his death-to help others find God."
David of Ohio wrote, "I admire
Daniel for what he accomplished on his short time on earth. I feel rather ashamed that I haven't done much with
my own life. I've never given my parents any real reason to be proud of me. I hope to change that."
A 17 year old high school senior girl from Manalapan, NJ spoke about how
rough it is in school:
"My school is so HORRIBLE. Everyone is so mean to everyone else.If you're not
thin, or beautiful or a cheerleader, you're not accepted. Today I was called a whore for taking someone's chair
at lunch-even though I didn't even do it. But yet he verbally harassed me. You would think after such a terrible
thing like this that U.S. students would learn to have respect for one another."
Lori from New York State offers a sad but real perspective:
"I am 24 years old and remember a time being afraid of a few of my classmates
who were bullied and who threatened violence. This is a real problem in our society and I don't see an end to it
until guns are not so common place in our homes. I also have had a personal tragedy. My brother used my fathers
gun to take his own life. I realize this is different than what happened to your son but I have always felt that
if he would not have had access to the guns this would not have happened. He was a young, depressed boy and should
have not been around any gun."
Wayne of Indiana lamented deeds of his own life, saying
".I think of how lucky I am that I'm still living right now. I think of how
I should have died in their places because of how I have wasted the life that God gave me. But when I pray at night
I realize that God had a special purpose for all this and that's when we will begin to appreciate all the blessings
the Lord has given us and to appreciate the impact of the ones who died on our lives and to realize how much we
could all do if we show each other lots of love."
Kristina of Green Bay, Wisconsin reflects on her own life:
"For the past year, I have been struggling with depression (which makes no
sense, since I recently married a wonderful man and love Jesus Christ with all my heart.) I have no motivation
to do anything about it, and I have been a terrible pessimist-something I never used to be. After reading your
son's story, I am determined to beat this depression. Your son's story gives me the motivation to go out and DO
something with my life, to make something of myself. It makes me sad when I think of how I have been taking life
for granted-and Daniel was so willing to cherish it."
Chandra of South Carolina says, "Since
reading everything about Columbine, I take my role as a mother much more seriously now. You never know what may
happen once they leave the house."
Tara of Ann Arbor, Michigan, said,
"We recently had our first son. I hope that he will possess the same caring spirit and determination that
your son did."
A man from Las Vegas related his experience with a gun show:
"My Uncle died in Florida and he had several rifles and such. His wife wanted
me to try and sell them. I took them to Denver and after many attempts, with no luck, went to a gun show in Denver.
That show scared my wife and I at how easy it was to buy anything. All I needed was the money. The worst was a
50 caliber machine gun, mounted on tripod. I asked if I could buy it and he said why not, as long as I had the
money. It was terrible and the people there scared my wife. I asked one if a war was planned and he said, we need
to protect ourselves. I asked, 'From who?' but there was no answer. I think your efforts and results are wonderful.
Yim Lee Koo of Malaysia said, "I'm
sure Daniel would be very proud of his parents and sister who have been so brave and strong for him. Indeed this
website would be an encouragement to those who had undergone what you have gone through. Thank you for sharing
this with all of us everywhere.
Shauna S of Nova Scotia observed that,
"It seems to me that Daniel was one of those people who made the sun shine just a little bit brighter every
day. This website is a fitting tribute to a boy who seemed to make you feel that all is right with the world when
he was around.
Jim Mc Millan made an observation as a resident of New South Wales, Australia:
"Thankfully our government here had the courage to radically change the gun
ownership laws, now the only people who have guns are the people who need them, or are legitimate sportsmen; semi-automatic
rifles, shotguns and pistols are totally banned. I used to be a gun owner and soldier so I guess you could say
that I've been on both sides of the fence; the sooner guns are off the streets the better.
Jennifer, from Washington state, says
"I have been watching you and reading about you this past week. Not once did the thought ever occur to me
that you were 'cashing in' on your son's death to get your face on TV. Shame on the people who think so."
Christy of St. Louis wrote, "Even
though Daniel's life was short, you should take comfort in the fact that you gave him a wonderful life, something
a lot of kids now a days only think exists in old t.v. shows. I can tell by the photos you have put on this site
that you were incredible parents who loved their children very much; who took interest in their daily lives, and
who spent a tremendous amount of time with them, molding their personalities and lives into positive, and nurtured
beings. Daniel would have been an incredible man because of you, but he will make an even better angel - watching
over other children who are taken from the cruelties of this world, into heaven... A very deserving place for him
Ruth of Cape Porpoise, Maine, declares that
"Confusing one's freedom with failing to protect our citizens, and especially our children, is a crime of
no small proportion.We live in a hunting state (Maine), and people tend to fall for the sound bytes of a campaign
rather than think thru the issues. They think their rights are in danger - even when they are not. Combating this
misunderstanding may be a big part of the challenge."
E. Cryer of Cambridge, Mass. says
".your words, along with those of your wife, oldest daughter, Daniel's classmates, and even strangers capture
Daniel's spirit so completely that I feel almost as though I had met him. Your efforts ensure not only that others
can share a small part of Daniel's life, but also offer the hope that another family may not have to suffer the
loss of such a gifted and cherished son or daughter."
Tim of Portland, Oregon, said, ".reading
about Daniel and the other children has inspired me to live a better life. I just wanted to let you know that I
think your son had this kind of impact on me and (I believe) many others.
Katrina, also from Massachusetts, is a very wise young woman, reflecting
on her own experience with grief.
"I am a High School senior this year and I lost a friend in a car accident
this past February. His name was also Daniel...he was only 18, and a wonderful kid like your son. Dan's car accident
was not his fault, just as Daniel's death was not because of something he did wrong, and I feel that is the hardest
situation. Sometimes it seems unfair, but we always remember that everyday really is a celebration of their lives,
and that they are in everything we do.
Your Daniel, all the way from Colorado, has touched so many people all over the country, and around the world...
God brought him to teach a lesson that isn't easy to understand, but it is one he knows now, and one we will all
understand when our own time comes. I am truly sorry for your loss, but know that even from heaven, he is doing
us some good down here at this very moment.
Brandy from Greenville, SC, reflects on her own pain.
"I would like to say that I have read the Website about your son and it has
given me the strength to go on. I'm just a 17 year old that I feel no one cares about. I've thought about suicide
and tried it, but everytime it seems to fail. I really appreciate the strength that you have given me."
Shannon from Virginia says, "I
can't even bring myself to make it past the first few pages of the photo album without numerous tears for such
a precious baby soul that I am sure developed into a great young man.I can only look at my own children with such
great love and realize what a gift I have been given and how can I make today the best day for them.
A man from Vermont: "I'm in a
wheelchair and I'm 25. I understand a little bit of the "you never totally get over it" idea, but I have
made a life for myself and now have a son. I used to be a very successful athlete as well as a bully. Now I have
a chance to make sure my son is always loved and will always care and respect all those around him. You and the
others members of your community show us this all the time."
Jennie from Austin, Texas, wrote,
"I am at work, people keep asking me if I'm ok, they walk in and see tears in my eyes. I have shared your
story with a few of my co-workers and they leave my office with tears in their eyes also. I cry not only for your
child, but for my own children."
A young person from Kalamazoo, Mich., adds a perspective on teen school life:
"I remember when Columbine happened. I was sitting at lunch discussing about
it with friends & I remember what I said exactly. "I understand why they did it, why they shot those people."
I used to talk & joke with friends, "What if we blew this up or shot this...or him or her." What
a FOOL I was!
In truth I have no idea why anybody would really want to take another's life. What I felt at that time was pain
of not being accepted & teased at my school. My last year in school, I truly felt like a ghost. Then I realized
that there is a much bigger world than just this little stuck-up school that I went to.
I still feel resentful of those days but never ever again will I joke of those acts. I feel very ashamed &
sorry that I even had those thoughts. Now I love life & am very happy how it's going, even in bad times."
Sue from Pennsylvania wrote:
How nice it is to have this kind of technology so that you can share your son with all
of the world!...I, too, have chosen to stay at home with my daughters. It is, as you have said, a true sacrifice,
in a world which is very materialistic and difficult to survive on one income. But this is a choice I wish more
mothers would make. To give up "earthly treasures" to raise your own children is truly priceless.
Sayaka from Japan wrote:
I am a 20-some girl from Japan. When I heard about this terrible school shooting, I am
very shocked and couldn't ignore this news and started to follow all news... And then I came to know about Daniel.
I really touched with Daniel's drive to overcome his weaknesses. He will be always in my mind when I face something
Kerri from Indiana wrote:
Thank you for reminding us that it is life that we celebrate. This is a wonderful tribute to a very special person.
He will always have a place in my heart. Peace.
Hannah from Texas wrote:
I am on the debate team at my high school and debated against Daniel once before. I 'll
always remember him being so friendly, even to someone that he didn't know. After we debated, he came up to me
and shook my hand started talking like we were good friends. I'll never forget that. Probably one of the kindest
gestures I've ever received from anyone.
Shanna from Littleton wrote:
Daniel was such an amazing person. I was lucky to have shared time in the ALPS program, cross country team, religious
education and biology with him. I never got to tell him how much I appreciated how polite and interested he was
when I would share my extra credit articles with the class. I would be excited to share the articles I thought
interesting but looking around the room I found Daniel the only person remotely interested. I could always count
on Daniel... I miss Daniel and the others so much that sometimes I can't bare the pain. But seeing you all at mass
so strong makes me stronger too. I am praying for Daniel and your family everyday. Daniel will be in the hearts
of Columbine forever.
David from Denver wrote:
I have two sons and worry about gun violence and how easy it is to get guns in this society.
I feel that as a victim of gun violence you have helped the cause of stopping this by speaking out and that you
have helped me personally since I am a parent and a concerned citizen and for this I thank you very much.
Alyssa from Michigan wrote:
I am starting class in the field of psychology and this web page and the sadness I feel when I think again what
happened gives me a firm determination to make a difference in my future work. I intend to work in schools with
children who have emotional needs and maybe if enough of us are working in schools and helping these kids sooner,
it can make a difference and we won't see this happening in the future. My prayer is that Daniel's life and the
others will be a corner stone for us to build a better, safer future for all of our children. We all need to talk
to our children and then listen twice as much and don't be naive when you think something is wrong.
Allison from Littleton wrote:
I used to babysit Daniel and Christie and I will forever be thankful to God that I am lucky enough to have known
Daniel. Whenever I feel sad about him and all the others that died that tragic day I remind myself that I am blessed
to have known them. Instead, I should feel sad for those that never got to know them, for they are the ones who
truly have lost.
Carla from Michigan wrote:
I live in a very small town and I go to a school of only 500 kids, but I know that there
are at least six or seven kids capable of doing what happened at Columbine...what happened there hit home for me.
Melissa from Colorado wrote:
I especially liked the photos and the 3 suggestions on how to honor Daniel and the other victims. Just from reading
through the web site, I have come to believe that Daniel's gentle and loving spirit has settled on all of you.
Thanks for showing us all what true Christian parents are like, through both good and bad times.
Renie from Ohio wrote:
I just read online the Denver Post's story about you and your son Daniel. I sat here
and cried, as I have over everything that has happened out there. What a beautiful, gentle boy your son was.
Jerry from Colorado wrote:
It helped me to think about Daniel as a living, vibrant young person rather than as a victim... Daniel's memory,
and that of the other Columbine students, will survive in the form of greater involvement on the part of my family
as we participate in looking for creative alternatives to violence and better ways to resolve harassment and alienation
among young people. The school Daniel attended resembles...the school which my daughters attend. We now realize
that they are no safer from explosive hatred than was Daniel.
Lori from Georgia wrote:
I am a teacher...in GA and I continue to worry about the safety of the students in our schools.
Michelle from Florida wrote:
I can't even imagine what you are going through right now...
(This remark has been very common from visitors)
Amy from Colorado wrote:
...Don't dwell on how he died, but the way he lived.
Lindsey from Littleton wrote:
...I am so grateful for the past two years that I was able to spend so much time with Daniel because of Debate.
Dan was so sweet to me and to everyone. He could always make me smile no matter what the situation was. Dan was
very special to me. I have so many special memories of him that I will hold close in my heart.
Karen from Littleton wrote:
...He would also be proud of what you've done in his memory - the work you're doing for tighter gun control and
the web site.
Karen from Illinois wrote:
My prayer is that God will ease your grief and comfort your sorrow...
(This is another common message theme)
Kelly from Florida wrote:
...as a parent and a future high school teacher this tragedy truly hit home. If anything good can come out of this
perhaps America will learn to value it's youth more and hopefully put an end to this senseless violence.
Kette from New York wrote:
...even those like myself who didn't get the opportunity to meet him will not forget Daniel. He will live on in
all of our hearts.
Jeff from Chicago wrote:
...I never knew...Daniel, but I feel like a part of his gentle spirit is in my heart
now too, and urging me not to waste my life, but to live it, love my family, and recapture my faith. I havent had
tears since my grandfather died, but after reading your site, it touched me so much. I dont understand it. Thank
you for sharing the memory of your sons life, it has made me grow closer to my family, God, and to living life.
God bless you always.
Lon from Littleton wrote:
If there was a way in which we could reach into your hearts and absorb only a portion of the pain...we would.
Marge from Littleton wrote:
You are an inspiration in the strength you are showing in your grieving. Your web site is such a positive way of
remembering him, and sharing him with all of us.
Rhonda from San Francisco wrote:
...The world is thinking about you and the other families. I hope that something good can come out of this tragic
Tom from Colorado wrote:
Your putting together this web page, and receiving the input from friends and passersby will no doubt be a good
way to work through your grief at your loss. I admire you for taking this proactive step to overcome the trauma
and grief. It will take time, but you will come out a stronger family, and yet a more "touchable" family.
Holly from Arizon wrote:
Our wish to you...
In the coming year-may you have-
Enough happiness to keep you sweet,
Enough trials to keep you strong,
Enough sorrow to keep you human,
Enough hope to keep you happy,
Enough failure to keep you humble,
Enough success to keep you eager,
Enough friends to give you comfort,
Enough wealth to meet your needs,
Enough enthusiasm to look forward,
Enough faith to banish depression,
Enough determination to make each day better than yesterday!
Alisha from Minnesota wrote:
I love Daniel's smile. It is very evident by the photos that he has happy and full of life.
Mindy from Colorado wrote:
Your strength and courage are remarkable - they foster hope for me as a parent that even in the worst of situations,
good can prevail. God bless.
Robert from Colorado wrote:
...Your web site is a superb tribute to Daniel and to your family. It helps all of us trying to understand this
tragedy to get to know some of the victims as flesh-and-blood human beings, with families and dreams and memories
and hopes. Daniel's death is a loss for all of us, both here in Denver and well beyond Colorado's borders.
Stephanie from Colorado wrote:
I hope you can realize that perhaps your son, who had so much potential cut so short, can inspire others to realize
their own potential and act upon it. I know I would like my future children to have the loving home life and support
that you gave Daniel.
Rebekah from Florida wrote:
...Your son will not be forgotten, I don't know if you realize how many lives he has touched. Thank you for making
this wonderful web site and sharing your precious son with us.
Helen from Boston wrote:
...Today I will hug all my children a little tighter.
Erik from Washington D.C. wrote:
No one could ever say that Daniel didn't touch many, many hearts. He will always remain in all those hearts.
Ken from Littleton wrote:
Beautifully designed web site...I especially appreciate the tone of your words - not vengeful or bitter. Warm,
tender, loving words.
Betsy from Colorado wrote:
...what I remember is how proud you always were of your kiddos. You would sneak in slides of the kids in the middle
of a technical presentation and say "Oh, how did this slide get in here!?!"
Colleen from Wisconsin wrote:
Daniel's spiritual job here on earth continues. His message will continue to be heard through your words and actions.
Sara from Amsterdam wrote:
Daniel was truly a rare light in this world, but I can tell that he carried this light further after receiving
it from his family. This warm, calming light will never burn out. He came from you.
Rob from Colorado wrote:
A little of Daniel belongs to all of us. His gentleness and spirit created something very positive that will continue
to make the world a better, kinder place through those whom he touched. Their impact upon the world, in turn, will
be a part of Daniel's immortality. He is with us yet.
Mary Kay from Colorado wrote:
...Thank you for allowing me to step into your private lives and tell you how much I care.
Peggy from Nebraska wrote:
As a teacher in a High School I often look at the children and realize how bright each
of their lights are shining. When the news of this tragedy reached our students they were stunned and shocked and
several came in to talk and pray for you and the others.
Theresa from Arizona wrote:
I love this site ! The pain and anguish you feel, and yet as hope and inspiration to others you comfort us all,
with memories and uplifting stories of such a wonderful human being...The signs Daniel gave the day of his funeral
only substantiate his life. Love of others, caring, compassion, and most of all in what can be a cynical world...The
sun shinning through the clouds that day, was his smile and his strength to carry you for what no parent should
Anne from North Carolina wrote:
...This tragedy has affected me deeply. I have a 15 year old son, a shy, loving gentle
boy like Daniel--my heart aches for you.
Meghan from Florida wrote:
...I do know what it is like to go to school afraid...I will try to get involved in some way to stop school violence...tell
everybody from Columbine that I am sorry about what happened...that I know what it is like to not have any friends
at school and if anybody needs a friend I would love to be their friend.
...learning that Daniel's Birthday is 3 days before mine.
...in 1978 a very dear friend was killed on (Daniel's birthday)...I can now think of June 25th with delight as
it is Daniel's Birthday... not the day Blanche was killed...
...I am getting married on September 18th...I will do my best to raise my children the
way you have. You raised a gentle, intelligent and caring son and no one can ever take those memories from you....
Anthony from New Jersey wrote:
Because of your sharing of your vision, now whenever I see a deer I think of Daniel and the other students of Columbine,
and I vow to do what I can to stop the violence. I believe that God sends us messages of love, and I also believe
that our dear loved ones who have died communicate with us in ways we will understand if we are receptive and just
I believe that it is only when you put an individual behind the headlines, when you get to know the victims, that
the story becomes real. It is not till the story becomes reality that people will be ignited to make a change.
Chad from Quebec wrote:
...as I watched the news and listened to what the people of Littleton were saying I was
amazed at one thing. The strength of your faith in God.
I have to admit I have not been very religious in my life. Watching your entire community draw strength from your
belief in God has been inspirational to me. So for the first time in many, many years I sat down to speak with
a priest, to ask questions that I never had answered as a child, and to ask new ones I developed as an adult.
...speaking to you has given me a sense of closure, as I was sad that I could not grieve with you all. I just wanted
to thank you for inspiring me to seek answers to my questions and for helping to restore my faith in a God that
for years I wasn't sure even existed.
Robert from Colorado wrote:
...thank you for sharing the life of a wonderful human being, and the lives of a wonderful and loving family. Daniel
was incredibly lucky and blessed to have parents and a sister as loving and kind as you all are. You and Daniel
were great and wonderful gifts for each other!
Messages Arrive From Around the World
We have been overwhelmed by the heartfelt expressions of sympathy and hope from around the world.
In all, more than 6,000 people have written to us.
We have received messages from all 50 states and Washington D.C., 11 Canadian provinces and over a 30 other countries
including: Austrailia, Brazil, Chile, China, Denmark, Egypt, Finland, France, Germany, Great Britain, Ireland,
Israel, Japan, Malaysia, Mexico, Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Panama, Portugal, Scotland, Singapore, South
Africa, Spain, Sweden and Zimbabwe and more.
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